{"id":3100,"date":"2017-05-09T03:43:48","date_gmt":"2017-05-09T03:43:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/risky.tv\/?p=3100"},"modified":"2017-05-10T06:50:06","modified_gmt":"2017-05-10T06:50:06","slug":"control-mostly-big-fat-illusion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/risky.tv\/control-mostly-big-fat-illusion\/","title":{"rendered":"Control is Mostly a Big Fat Illusion"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The scene above, from the 1999 film <a href=\"http:\/\/www.imdb.com\/title\/tt0128278\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><em>Instinct<\/em>,<\/a> plays out nicely what is explained here [ paraphrased from a teacher who specializes in addiction recovery ]:<\/p>\n<p>Really, it is about \u201c<em>attempting to control.<\/em>\u201d Control is somewhat of an illusion.<\/p>\n<p>We try to control what people think of us, our environments, our spouse, and our children. 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