The Past Won’t Be Different

With everyone we’re holding a grudge against, we envisioned our relationship with them to play out a certain way… and for them to be a certain way.

For any person who deeply hurt us, we should think:

“What is the past I thought I wanted with this person?”

In other words, how did we expect them to behave? What did we expect to get out of this relationship? How did we expect events to play out? Whoever it is, whatever happened…. we expected something they didn’t deliver.

That’s always the bottom line.

We need to identify what that thing (or things) were, and forgive them for not rising to that expectation.